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Rehat
Maryada
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Any
human being who faithfully believes in
i.
One Immortal Being,
ii. Ten Gurus, from Guru Nanak Sahib to Guru Gobind
Singh Sahib
iii. The Guru Granth Sahib,
iv. The utterances and teachings of the ten Gurus and
v. Khande di Pahul bequeathed by the tenth Guru, and
who does not owe allegiance to any other religion, is
a Sikh.
Sikh
Living
A
Sikh's life has two aspects : individual or
personal and corporate or Panthak .
A
Sikh's Personal Life
A
Sikh's personal life should comprehend:-
i. Meditation on Nam (Divine Substance) and the scriptures,
ii. Leading life according to the Gurus' teachings and
iii. Altruistic voluntary service.
Meditating
on Nam (Divine Substance) and Scriptures
1.
A Sikh should wake up in the ambrosial hours (three
hours before the dawn), take bath and, concentrating
his/her thoughts on One Immortal Being, repeat the name
Waheguru (Wondrous Destroyer of darkness).
2. He/she should recite the following scriptural compositions
every day :
a. The Japu, the Jaapu and the Ten Sawayyas (Quartets)
- beginning "Sarawag sudh"-- in the morning.
a. Sodar Rehras should recite in the evening after sunset.
b. The Sohila - to be recited at night before going
to bed.
Note: The morning and evening recitations should be
concluded with the Ardas.

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Joining
the congregation for understanding of and reflecting
on Gurbani
Gurdwara
a. One is more easily and deeply affected
by Gurbani (the holy Bani bequeathed by the Gurus) participating
in congregational gatherings. For this reason, it is
necessary for a Sikh that he visit the places where
the Sikhs congregate for worship and prayer (the Gurdwaras),
and joining the congregation, partake of the benefits
that the study of the holy scriptures bestows.
b.
The Guru Granth Sahib should be ceremonially opened
in the Gurdwara every day without fail. Except for special
exigencies, when there is need to keep the Guru Granth
Sahib open during the night, Guru Granth Sahib should
not be kept open during the night. It should, generally,
be closed ceremonially after the conclusion of the Rehras
(evening scripture recitation). Guru Granth Sahib should
remain open so long as a granthi or attendant can remain
in attendance, persons seeking darshan (seeking a view
of or making obeisance to it) keep coming, or there
is no risk of commission of irreverence towards it.
Thereafter, it is advisable to close it ceremonially
to avoid any disrespect to it.
c.
The Guru Granth Sahib should be opened, read and closed
ceremonially with reverence. The place where it is installed
should be absolutely clean. An awning should be above.
The Guru Granth Sahib should be placed on a cot measuring
up to its size and overlaid with absolutely clean mattress
and sheets. For proper installation and opening the
Guru Granth Sahib , there should be cushions/pillows
appropriate of kind etc. and, for covering it, romalas
(sheet covers of appropriate size). When the Guru Granth
Sahib is not being read, it should remain covered with
a romala. A whisk too, should be there.
d.
Anything except the afore-mentioned reverential ceremonies,
for instance, such practices as the arti (Waving of
a platter with burning lamps and incense set in it in
vertical circular motion) with burning incense and lamps,
offerings of eatables to Guru Granth Sahib , burning
of lights, beating of gongs, etc., is contrary to gurmat
(the Guru's way). However, for the perfuming of the
place, the use of flowers, incense and scent is not
barred. For light inside the room, oil or butter-oil
lamps, candles, electric lamps, kerosene oil lamps,
etc., may he lighted.
e.
No book should he installed like and at par with the
Guru Granth Sahib . Worship of any idol or any ritual
or activity should not be allowed to be conducted inside
the Gurdwaras. Nor should the festival of any other
faith he allowed to be celebrated inside the Gurdwara.
However, it will not be improper to use any occasion
or gathering for the propagation of the gurmat (The
Guru's way).
f.
Pressing the legs of the cot on which the Guru Granth
Sahib is installed, rubbing nose against walls and on
platforms, held sacred, or massaging these, placing
water below the Guru Granth Sahib's seat, making or
installing statues, or idols inside the Gurdwaras, bowing
before the picture of the Sikh Gurus or elders - all
these are irreligious self-willed egotism, contrary
to gurmat (the Guru's way).
g.
When the Guru Granth Sahib has to be taken from one
place to another, the Ardas should be performed. He/she
who carries the Guru Granth Sahib on his/her head should
walk barefoot; but when the wearing of shoes is a necessity,
no superstitions need be entertained.
h.
The Guru Granth Sahib should be ceremonially opened
after performing the Ardas. After the ceremonial opening,
a hymn should be read from the Guru Granth Sahib.
i.
Whenever the Guru Granth Sahib is brought, irrespective
of whether or not another copy of the Guru Granth Sahib
had already been installed at the concerned place, every
Sikh should stand up to show respect.
j.
While going into the Gurdwara, one should take off the
shoes and clean oneself up. If the feet are dirty or
soiled, they should be washed with water.
One
should circumambulate with the Guru Granth Sahib or
the Gurdwara on one's right. k. No person, no matter
which country, religion or caste he/she belongs to,
is barred from entering the Gurdwara for darshan (seeing
the holy shrine). However, he/she should not have on
his/her person anything, such as tobacco or other intoxicants,
which are tabooed by the Sikh religion.
l.
The first thing a Sikh should do on entering the Gurdwara
is to do obeisance before the Guru Granth Sahib. He/she
should, thereafter, have a glimpse of the congregation
and bid in a low, quiet voice, "Waheguru ji ka
Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh."
m.
In the congregation, there should be no differentiation
or discrimination between Sikh and non-Sikh, persons
traditionally regarded as touchable and untouchable,
the so-called high and low caste persons, the high and
the low.
n.
Sitting on a cushion, a distinctive seat, a chair, a
stool, a cot, etc. or in any distinctive position in
the presence of the Guru Granth Sahib or within the
congregation is contrary to Gurmat(Guru's way).
o.
No Sikh should sit bare-headed in the presence of the
Guru Granth Sahib or in the congregation. For Sikh women
joining the congregation with their persons uncomfortably
draped and with veils drawn over their faces is contrary
to gurmat (Guru's way).
p.
There are five takhts (lit., thrones, fig., seats of
high authority) : namely-
I.
Sri Akal Takht Sahib, Amritsar,
II. Takht Sri Patna Sahib,
III. Takht Sri Kesgarh Sahib, Anandpur,
IV. Takht Sri Hazur Sahib, Nanded,
V. Takht Sri Damdama Sahib, Talwandi Sabo.
q.
Only an Amritdhari Sikh man or woman, who faithfully
observes the discipline ordained for the Amritdhari
Sikhs, can enter the hallowed enclosures of the Takhts
(Ardas for and on behalf of any Sikh or non-Sikh, fallen
or punished (tankhahia) Sikh, can be offered at the
takhts.
r.
At a high-level site in every Gurdwara should be installed
the nishan sahib (Sikh flag). The cloth of the flag
should be either of xanthic or of greyish blue colour
and on top of the flag post, there should either he
a spearhead or a Khanda (a straight dagger with convex
side edges leading to slanting top edges ending in a
vertex).
s.
There should he a drum (nagara) in the Gurdwara for
beating on appropriate occasions.

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a.
Only a Sikh may perform kirtan in a congregation.
b.
Kirtan : singing Gurbani in the prescribed
Rag in the beginning of the Shabad.
c.
In the congregation, kirtan only of Gurbani (Guru Granth
Sahib 's or Guru Gobind Singh's hymns) and, for its
elaboration, of the compositions of Bhai Gurdas Ji and
Bhai Nand Lal Ji, may be performed.
d.
It is improper, while singing Shabads from Guru Granth
Sahib to rhythmic folk tunes or to traditional Ragas,
or in group singing , to induct into them improvised
and extraneous refrains. Only a line from the Shabad
should be made a refrain.

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Taking
Hukam (Command)
a.
Doing obeisance to the Guru Granth Sahib, taking a glimpse
of the congregation, an embodiment of the Guru's person,
and taking the command : these constitute the view of
the Satguru (Immortal destroyer of darkness, the true
guru). Raising the drapery covering Guru Granth Sahib
and merely taking a look or making others take a look
at the exposed page, without taking command (reading
the prescribed hymn) is contrary to Gurmat (Guru's way).
b.
In the course of the congregational sessions, only one
thing should be done at a time : performing of kirtan,delivering
discourse, interpretative elaboration of the scriptures,
or reading of the scriptures.
c.
Only a Sikh, man or woman, is entitled to be in attendence
of the Guru Granth Sahib during the congregational session.
d.
Only a Sikh may read out from the Guru Granth Sahib
for others. However, even a non-Sikh may read from it
for himself/herself.
e.
For taking the command (Hukam), the Shabad that is continuing
on the top of the left hand page must be from the beginning.
If the Shabad begins on the previous page, turn over
the page and read the whole hymn from the beginning
to the end. If the scriptural composition that is continuing
on the top of the left hand page is a var(ode) then
start from the first of the slokas preceding the pauri
and read upto the end of the pauri. Conclude the reading
at the end of the Shabad with the line in which the
name 'Nanak' occurs.
f.
Hukam must also be taken at the conclusion of the congregational
session or after the Ardas.

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Sadharan
Path (Completion of Normal Intermittent Reading of the
Guru Granth Sahib):
a.
Every Sikh should, as far as possible, maintain a separate
and exclusive place for the installation of Guru Granth
Sahib, in his home.
b.
Every Sikh, man, woman, boy or girl, should learn Gurmukhi
to be able to read the Guru Granth Sahib.
c.
Every Sikh should take the Hukam (Command) of the Guru
Granth Sahib in the ambrosial (early)hours of the morning
before taking meal. If he/she fails to do that, he/she
should read or listen to reading from the Guru Granth
Sahib some time during the day. If he/she cannot do
that either, during travel etc., or owing to any other
impediment, he/she should not give in to a feeling of
guilt.
d.
It is desirable that every Sikh should carry on a continuous
reading of the Guru Granth Sahib and complete a full
reading in one or two months or over a longer period.
e.
While undertaking a full reading of the Guru Granth
Sahib , one should recite the Anand Sahib (the first
five and the last stanzas) and perform the Ardas. One
should, thereafter, read the Japuji.
Akhand
Path (Uninterrupted-Non-stop-Completion of the reading
of the Guru Granth Sahib)
a.
The non-stop reading of the Guru Granth Sahib is carried
on at hard times or on occasions of elation or joy.
It takes approximately fortyeight hours. The non-stop
reading implies continuous, uninterrupted reading. The
reading must be clear and correct. Reading too fast,
so that the person listening in to it cannot follow
the contents, amounts to irreverence to the Scriptures.
The reading should be correct and clear, due care being
bestowed on consonant and vowel even though that takes
a little longer to complete.
b.
Whichever family or congregation undertakes the reading
should carry it out itself through its members, relatives,
friends, etc., all together. The number of reciters
is not prescribed. If a person, himself, cannot read,
he should listen in to the reading by some competent
reader. However, it should never be allowed to happen
that the reader carries on the reading all by himself/herself
and no member of the family is listening in to the reading.
The reader should be served with food and clothing to
the best of the host's means.
c.
Placing a pitcher, ceremonial clarified-butter-fed lamp,
coconut, etc. around, during the course of the uninrerrupted
or any other reading of Guru Granth Sahib, or reading
of other Scriptural texts side by side with or in the
course of such reading is contrary to the gurmat (Guru's
way).
Commencing
the Non-Stop Reading (Akhandpath)
While
undertaking the intermittent reading of the Guru Granth
Sahib, the sacred pudding (Karhah Prashad) for offering
should be brought and after reciting the Anand (six
stanzas) and offering Ardas, Hukam should be taken.
While
beginning the unbroken reading, the sacred pudding should
first be laid. Thereafter, after reciting the Anand(six
stanzas), offering the Ardas and taking the Hukam, reading
should he commenced.
Concluding
the Reading
a.
The reading of the whole Guru Granth Sahib (intermmitent
or non-stop) may be concluded with the reading of Mundawani
or the Rag Mala according to the convention traditionally
observed at the concerned place. (Since there is a difference
of opinion within the Panth on this issue, nobody should
dare to write or print a copy of the Guru Granth Sahib
excluding the Rag Mala). Thereafter, after reciting
the Anand Sahib, the Ardas of the conclusion of the
reading should be offered and the sacred pudding (Karhah
Prashad) distributed.
b.
On the conclusion of the reading, offering of draperies,
fly-whisk and awning, having regard to the requirements
of the Guru Granth Sahib, and of other things, for Panthak
causes, should be made to the best of means.

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Karhah
Prashad (Sacred Pudding)
a.
Only the Karhah Prashad which
has been prepared or got prepared according to the prescribed
method shall be acceptable in the congregation.
b.
The method of preparing the Karhah Prashad is this :
In a clean vessel, the three contents (wheat flour,
pure sugar and clarified butter, in equal quantities)
should he put and it should be made reciting the Scriptures.
Then covered with a clean piece of cloth, it should
be placed on a clean stool in front of the Guru Granth
Sahib. Thereafter, in the holy presence of the Guru
Granth Sahib , the first five and the last stanza of
the Anand Sahib should be recited aloud {so that the
congregation can hear} the Ardas, offered and the Karhah
Prashad tucked with the sacred Kirpan for acceptance.
c.
After this, before the distribution to the
congregation of the Karhah Prashad,
the share of the five beloved ones should be set apart
and given away. Thereafter, while the general distribution,
the share of the person in attendance of the Guru Granth
Sahib(Giving double share to the person in attendance
(constitutes improper discrimination)should be put in
small bowl or vessel and handed over. The person who
doles out the Karhah Prashad among
the congregation should do so without any discrimination
on the basis of personal regard or spite. He should
dole out the Karhah Parshad equally
to the Sikh, the non-Sikh or a person of high or low
caste. While doling out the Karhah Prashad,
no discrimination should be made on considerations of
caste or ancestry or being regarded, by some, as untouchable,
of persons within the congregation.
d.
The offering of Karhah Prashad should be accompanied
by at least two pice in cash.

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Exposition
of Gurbani ( Gurbani Di Katha)
a.
The exposition of the Gurbani in a congregational should
he carded out only by a Sikh.
b.
The object of the exposition should only be promoting
understanding of the Guru's tenets.
c.
The exposition can only be of the ten Gurus' writings
utterances,, Bhai Gurdas's writings, Bhai Nand Lal's'-
writings or of any generally accepted Panthak book or
books of history (which are in agreement with the -.
tenets) and not of a book of any other faith. However,
illustration, references to a holy person's teachings
or contained in a book may be made.
Expository
Discourse (Vikhian)
No
discourse contrary to the Guru's tenets should be delivered
inside a Gurdwara.
Gurdwara
Service
In
the Gurdwara, the schedule of the congregational service
generally is ceremonial opening of the Guru Granth Sahib,
Kirtan, exposition of scriptures, expository discourses,
recitation of Anand Sahib, the -Ardas the raising of
Fateh slogan and then the slogan of Sat Sri Akal and
taking the Hukam.

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Living
in Consonance with Guru's Tenets (Gurmat Rehni)
A
Sikh's living, earning livelihood, thinking and conduct
should accord with the Guru's tenets. The Guru's tenets
are:
a.
Worship should be rendered only to the One Timeless
Being and to no god or goddess.
b.
Regarding the ten Gurus, the Guru Granth Sahib and the
ten Gurus' word alone as saviours and holy objects of
veneration.
c.
Regarding ten Gurus as the effulgence of one light and
one single entity.
d.
Sikhs don't believe in caste system, untouchabililty
, Jantar Mantar Tantar (Magic spells) omens, horoscopic
dispositions , Shradh, Ancestor worship, Pind, Patal,Fasting,Tilak,
Janju, Tulsi, Malla, Gor, Math, Marhi, Idolatery,
Not
owning up or regarding as hallowed any place other than
the Guru's place- such, for instance, as sacred sports
or places of pilgrimage of other faiths.
Not
believing in or according any authority to Muslim seers,
Brahmins' holiness, soothsayers, clairvoyants, oracles,
promise of an offering on the fulfilment of a wish,
offering of sweet loaves or rice pudding at graves on
fulfillment of wishes, the Vedas, the Shastras, the
Gayatri, the Gita, the Quaran, the Bible, etc. However,
the study of the books of other faiths for general self-education
is admissible.
e.
The Khalsa should maintain its distinctiveness among
the professors of different religions of the world,
but should not hurt the sentiments of any person professing
another religion.
f.
A Sikh should pray to God before launching off any task.
g.
Learning Gurmukhi (Punjabi in Gurmukhi script)) is essential
for a Sikh. He should pursue other studies also.
h.
It is a Sikh's duty to get his children educated in
Sikhism.
i.
A Sikh should, in no way, harbor any antipathy to the
hair of the head with which his child is born. He should
not temper with the hair with which the child is horn.
He should add the suffix "Singh" to the name
of his son & "Kaur" to the name of his
daughter. A Sikh should keep the hair of his sons and
daughters intact.
j.
A Sikh must not take hemp (cannabis), opium, liquor,
tobacco, in short, any intoxicant. His only routine
intake should be food.
k.
Piercing of nose or ears for wearing ornaments in forbidden
for Sikh men and women.
l.
A Sikh should not kill his daughter; nor should he maintain
any relationship with "daughter-killer."
m.
The true Sikh of the Guru shall make an honest living
by lawful work.
n.
A Sikh shall regard a poor person's mouth as the Guru's
cash offerings box.
o.
A Sikh shall not steal, form dubious associations or
engage in gambling.
p.
He who regards another man's daughter as his own daughter,
regards another man's wife as his mother, has coition
with his own wife alone, he alone is a truly disciplined
Sikh of the Guru. A Sikh woman shall likewise keep within
the confines of conjugal rectitude.
q.
A Sikh shall observe the Sikh rules of conduct and conventions
from his birth right upto the end of his life.
r.
A Sikh, when he meets another Sikh, should greet him
with "Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru ji ki Fateh"
(Rendered into English:The Khalsa is Waheguru's; victory
too is His !). This is ordained for Sikh men and women
both.
s.
It is not proper for a Sikh woman to wear veil or keep
her face hidden by veil or cover.
t.
For a Sikh, there is no restriction or requirement as
to dress except that he must wear Kachhehra (A drawer
type fastened by a fitted string round the waist, very
often worn as an underwear.) and turban. A Sikh woman
may or may not tie turban.

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Ceremonies
pertaining to Birth and Naming of Child
a.
In a Sikh's household, as soon after the birth of a
child as the mother becomes capable of moving about
and taking bath (irrespective of the number of days
which that takes), the family and relatives should go
to a Gurdwara with Karhah Prashad (sacred pudding) or
get Karhah Prashad made in the Gurdwara and recite in
the holy presence of the Guru Granth Sahib such hynins
as "Parmeshar dita bana" {Sorath M. 5} (The
Almighty Lord has granted support. [Sorath M. 5, Guru
Granth Sahib P. 628]), "Satguru sache dia bhej"
{Asa M. 5} (The true Lord has sent this gift. [Asa M.
5, Guru Granth Sahib P. 396]) that are expressive of
joy and thankfulness. Thereafter if a reading of the
holy Guru Granth Sahib had been taken up, that should
be concluded. Then the holy Hukam (command) should be
taken. A name starting with the first letter of the
Shabad of the Hukam (command) should he proposed by
the Granthi (man in attendance of Guru Granth Sahib)
and, after its acceptance by the congregation, the name
should be announced by him. The boy's name must have
the suffix "Singh" and the giri's, the suffix
"Kaur".
After
that the Anand Sahib (short version comprising six stanzas)
should be recited and the Ardas in appropriate terms
expressing joy over the naming ceremony he offered and
the Karhah Prashad distributed.
b.
The superstition as to the pollution of food and water
in consequence of birth must not be subscribed to, for
the holy writ is : "The birth and death are by
His ordinance; coming and going is by His will. All
food and water are, in principle, clean, for these life-sustaining
substances are provided by Him."
c.
Making shirts or frocks for children out of Guru Granth
Sahib 's draperies is a sacrilege.

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Anand
Sanskar : (Sikh Matrimonial Ceremony and Conventions)
a.
A Sikh man and woman should enter wedlock without giving
thought to the prospective spouse's caste and descent.
b.
A Sikh's daughter must be married to a Sikh.
c.
A Sikh's marriage should be solemnized by Anand marriage
rites.
d.
Child marriage is taboo for Sikhs.
e.
When a girl becomes marriageable, physically, emotionally
and by virtue of maturity of character, a suitable Sikh
match should be found and she be married to him by Anand
marriage rites.
f.
Marriage may not be preceded by engagement ceremony.
But if an engagement ceremony is sought to he held,
a congregational gathering should be held and, after
offering the Ardas before the Guru Granth Sahib, a kirpan,
a steel Kara and some sweets may be tendered to the
boy.
g.
Consulting horoscopes for determining which day or date
is auspicious or otherwise for fixing the day of the
marriage is a sacrilege. Any day that the parties find
suitable by mutual consultation should be fixed.
h.
Putting on floral or gilded face ornamentation, decorative
headgear or red thread band round the wrist, worshipping
of ancestors, dipping feet in rffiik mixed with water,
cutting a berry or jandi (Prosopis spieigera) bushes,
filling pitcher, ceremony of retirement in feigned displeasure,
reciting couplets, performing havans (Sacrificial fire),
installing vedi (a wooden canopy or pavilion under which
Hindu marriages are performed), prostitutes' dances,
drinking liquor, are all sacrileges.
i.
The marriage party should have as small a number of
people as the girl's people desire. The two sides should
greet each other singing sacred hymns and finally by
the Sikh greetings of Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru
ji ki Fateh.
j.
For marriage, there should be a congregational gathering
in the holy presence of Guru Granth Sahib. There should
be hymn-singing by ragis or by the whole congregation.
Then the girl and the boy should he made to sit facing
the Guru Granth Sahib. The girl should sit on the left
side of the boy. After soliciting the congregation's
permission, the master of the marriage ceremony (who
may be a man or a woman) should bid the boy and girl
and their parents or guardians to stand and should offer
the Ardas for the commencement of the Anand marriage
ceremony.
The
officiant should then apprise the boy and the girl of
the duties and obligations of conjugal life according
to the Guru's tenets.
He
should initially give to the two an exposition of their
common mutual obligations. He should tell them how to
model the husband-wife relationship on the love between
the individual soul and the Supreme Soul in the light
of the contents of circumambulation (Lanvan) Shabads
in the Suhi measure (Rag) section of the Guru Granth
Sahib.
He
should explain to them the notion of the state of "a
single soul in two bodies" to be achieved through
love and make them see how they may attain union with
the Immortal Being discharging duties and obligations
of the householders' life. Both of them, they should
be told, have to make their conjugal union a means to
the fulfillment of the purpose of the journey of human
existence; both have to lead clean and Guru-oriented
lives through the instrumentality of their union.
He
should then explain to the boy and girl individually
their respective conjugal duties as husband and wife.
The
bridegroom should be told that the girl's people having
chosen him as the fittest match from among a lot, he
should regard his wife as his better half, accord to
unflinching love and share with her all that he has.
In situations, he should protect her person and honour,
should be completely loyal to her and he should show
much respect and consideration for her parents as for
his own.
The
girl should be told that she has been joined matrimony
to her man in the hallowed presence of the Guru Granth
Sahib and the congregation. She should ever harbor for
him deferential solicitude, regard him the lord master
of her love and trust; she should remain firm in loyalty
to him and serve him in joy and sorrow and in every
clime (native or foreign) and should show the same and
consideration to his parents and relatives as she does
to her own parents and relatives.
The
boy and girl should bow before the Guru Granth Sahib
to betoken their acceptance of these instructions. Thereafter,
the girl's father or the principal relation should make
the girl grasp one end of the sash which the boy wearing
over his shoulders and the person in attendance the
Guru Granth Sahib should recite the matrimonial circumambulation
stanzas {Lavan of the Fourth Nanak, Guru Ram Das Sahib
in the Suhi Rag of the Guru Granth Sahib } (Pp. 773-4).
After the conclusion of the recitation of each of the
stanzas, the boy, followed by the girl holding the end
of the sash, should go round the Guru Granth Sahib while
the ragis or the congregation sing out the recited stanza.
The
boy and girl, after every circumambulation, should bow
before the Guru Granth Sahib in genuflexion, lowering
their forehead to touch the ground and then stand up
to listen to the recitation of the next stanza. There
being four matrimonial circumambulation stanzas in the
concerned hymn, the proceeding will comprise four circumambulation
with the incidental singing of the stanza. After the
four circumabulation, the boy and girl should, after
bowing before the Guru Granth Sahib, sit down at the
appointed place and the Ragis or the person who has
conducted the ceremony should recite the first five
and the last stanza of the Anand Sahib. Thereafter,
the Ardas should he offered to mark the conclusion of
the Anand marriage ceremony and the Karhah Parshad,
distributed'.
k.
Persons professing faiths other than the Sikh faith
cannot be joined in wedlock by the Anand Karaj ceremony.
l.
No Sikh should accept a match for his/her son or daughter
for monetary consideration.
m.
If the girl's parents at any time or on any occasion
visit their daughter's home and a meal is ready there,
they should not hesitate to eat there. Abstaining from
eating at the girl's home is a superstition. The Khalsa
has been blessed with the boon of victuals and making
others eat by the Guru and the Immortal Being. The girl's
and boy's people should keep accepting each other's
hospitality, because the Guru has joined them in relationship
of equality (Prem Sumarag).
n.
If a woman's husband has died, she may, if she so wishes,
finding a match suitable for her, remarry. For a Sikh
man whose wife has died, similar ordinance obtains.
o.
The remarriage may be solemnized in the same manner
as the Anand marriage.
p.
Generally, no Sikh should marry a second wife if the
first wife is alive.
q.
Amritdhari Sikh ought to get his wife also Amritdhari

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Funeral
Ceremonies (Antam Sanskar)
a.
The body of a dying or dead person, if it is on a cot,
must not be taken off the cot and put on the floor.
Nor must a lit lamp be placed beside, or a cow got bestowed
in donation by, him/her or for his/her good or any other
ceremony, contrary to Guru's way, performed. Only Gurbani
should be recited or "Waheguru, Waheguru"
repeated by his/her side.
b.
When some one shuffles the mortal coil, the survivors
must not grieve or raise a hue and cry or indulge in
breast beating. To induce a mood of resignation to God's
will, it is desirable to recite Gurbani or repeat "Waheguru".
c.
However, young the deceased may be, the body should
be cremated. However, where arrangements for cremation
cannot be made, there should be no qualm about the body
being immersed in flowing water or disposed of in any
other manner.
d.
As to the time of cremation, no consideration as to
whether it should take place during day or night should
weigh.
e.
The dead body should be bathed and clothed in clean
clothes. While that is done, the Sikh symbols-Kangha,
Kachha, Kara, Kirpan-should not be taken off. Thereafter,
putting the body on a plank, Ardas about its being taken
away for disposal be offered. The hearse should then
be lifted and taken to the cremation ground. While the
body is being carried to the cremation ground, hymns
that induce feelings of detachment should be recited.
On reaching the cremation ground, the pyre should be
laid. Then the Ardas for consigning the body to fire
be offered. The dead body should then he placed on the
pyre and the son or any other relation or friend of
the deceased should set fire to it. The accompanying
congregation should sit at a reasonable distance and
listen to kirtan or carry on collective singing of Shabads
or recitation of detachment-inducing Shabads. When the
pyre is fully aflame, the Kirtan Sohila (prescribed
preretirement night Scriptural prayer) be recited and
the Ardas offered. (Piercing the Skull half an hour
or so after the pyre has been burning with a rod or
something else in the belief that will secure the release
of the soul-kapal kriya-is contrary to the Guru's tenets).
The congregation should then leave.
Coming
back home, a reading of the Guru Granth Sahib should
be commenced at home or in a nearby Gurdwara, and after
reciting the six stanzas of the Anand Sahib, the Ardas,
offered and Karhah prashad (sacred pudding) distributed.
The reading of the Guru Granth Sahib should be completed
on the tenth day. If the reading cannot, or is sought
not to, be completed on the tenth day, some other day
may be appointed for the conclusion of the reading having
regard to the convenience of the relatives. The reading
of the Guru Granth Sahib should he carried out by the
members of the household of the deceased and relatives
in cooperation. if possible, Kirtan may be held every
night. No funeral ceremony remains to be performed after
the "tenth day."
f.
When the pyre is burnt out, the whole bulk of the ashes,
including the burnt bones, should be gathered up and
immersed in flowing water or buried at that very place
and the ground levelled. Raising a monument to the memory
of the deceased at the place where his dead body is
cremated is taboo.
g.
Adh Marg (the ceremony of breaking the pot used for
bathing the dead body amid doleful cries half way towards
the cremation ground), organised lamentation by women,
foorhi (sitting on a straw mat in mouming for a certain
period), diva (keeping an oil lamp lit for 360 days
after the death in the belief that that will light the
path of the deceased), Pind (ritual donating of lumps
of rice flour, oat flour, or solidified milk (khoa)
for ten days after death), kirya (concluding the funeral
proceedings ritualistically, serving meals and making
offerings by way of Shradh, Budha Marna (waving of whisk,
over the hearse of an old person's dead body and decorating
the hearse with festoons), etc. are contrary to the
approved code. So too is the picking of the burnt bones
from the ashes of the pyre for immersing in the Ganga,
at Patalpuri (Kiratpur), at Kartarpur Sahib or at any
other such place.

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Other
Rites and Conventions
Sewa
(Voluntary Service)
1.
Sewa is a prominent part of Sikh religion.
Illustrative models of voluntary service are organised
for imparting training, in the Gurdwaras. Its simple
forms are : sweeping and plastering the floors of the
Gurdwara. serving water to or fanning the congregation.
offering provisions to and rendering any, kind of service
in the common kitchen-cum-eating house. dusting the
shoes of the people visiting the Gurdwara, etc.
a.
Guru Ka Langar : The philosophy behind the Langar (Guru's
kitchen-cum-eating-house) is two-fold : to provide training
to the Sikhs in voluntary service and to help banish
all distinction of high and low, touchable and untouchable
from the Sikhs' minds.
b.
All human beings, high or low, and of any caste or color
may sit and eat in the Langar. No discrimination on
grounds of the country of origin, color, caste or religion
must be made while making people sit in rows for eating.
However, only Amritdhari Sikhs can eat off one plate.
Panthak
Rehni (Facets of Corporate Sikh Life)
The
essential facets of Panthak life are
:
1.
Guru Panth (the Panth's Guru status)
2. The ceremony of Amrit Sanchar
(Khande di Pahul)
3. The statute of chastisement for
aberrations
4. The statute of collective resolution
(Gurmata)
5. The appeal against local decisions
Guru
Panth (Panth's Status of Guruhood)
The
concept of service is not confined to fanning the congregation,
service to and in the Guru ka Langar etc. A Sikh's entire
life is a life of benevolent exertion. The most fruitful
service is the service that secures the optimum good
by minimal endeavor. That can be achieved through organised
collective action. A Sikh has, for this reason, to fulfil
his Panthak obligations (obligations as a member of
the entity, the Panth), even as he/she performs his/her
individual duties. This corporate entity is the Panth.
Every Sikh has also to fulfil his obligations as a unit
of the corporate body, the Panth.
a.
The Guru Panth (Panth's status of Guruhood)
means the whole body of committed Amritdhari Sikhs.
This body was fostered by all the ten Gurus and The
tenth Nanak Guru Gobind Singh Sahib gave it its final
shape and invested it with Guruhood.

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